Best Age to Have A Baby

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  1. Jasmin Cottontail

    Jasmin Cottontail Active Member

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    Hi everyone! I was wondering what is the best age to have a baby or to become a parent? Is there actually a best age for that? Mid 20's? Late 20's? Early 30's? 40's? Like being physically, emotionally and mentally prepared in having a baby.
     
  2. pwarbi

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    Personally I'm not sure that there is a right or wrong age to have a baby or start a family. If you have the support around you then it doesn't matter if your in your late teen or early forties and it's entirely up to that couple when they choose to start a family. these days it seems that everyone as an opinion on what others should and shouldn't do, when really it should only be that couples decision and they have to do what's best for them and not be swayed by what society says is right or wrong.
     
  3. tony

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    I cannot exactly say the best age to have a baby but I certainly do think having a baby in 40's is not the best of time for a woman.. A woman should be physically prepared to have a baby and with a right emotion or mind frame before planning to have a baby. That said, maybe from late 20's to mild 30's will be a good time to have a baby
     
  4. TheKnight

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    I think it's fine to have a child by the age of 25 if you're ready. At the age of 25, most people should have a stable job and a stable mind. I think people should stop having children around the close age of 50 because there are two things that I don't like about that. One is that parents that age aren't physically built to take care of children anymore and especially if it's about 14 years more. The second is that the child is going to be too young while their parents grow older. If you're 50 and you have a child, you'll already be 70 by the time he/she is 20. It's sad.
     
  5. Greengrl

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    I had my first child at age 20, and my youngest at age 30. I have a great relationship with my oldest daughter. She is about to turn 20, and she really is my best friend. However, I do believe I was too young to be a parent. I made so many mistakes, and we kind of grew up together. I got lucky as she is very mature and responsible. But, we went through a lot to get to that point.
    I have a good relationship with all of my children. But, I would say that my 3 youngest have more of a "parent", the older 2 always said I was their friend. I'm not sure if it was my age, or my experience that made a difference. Either way, we all make mistakes, we all live and learn. As long as you fill your childrens lives with plenty of love and support, you will be successful no matter the age.
     
  6. Alexandoy

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    My second wife has a problem with her reproductive system. In our search to get her pregnant, I have learned that the best age to become a parent is from 20 to 25 years old for both the mother and father. That age bracket is the time when the body is strongest in terms of reproduction.
     
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    I have to agree with you on that.According to my experience, when I had my first born I was 25 years old, It was a smooth pregnancy since I was young and strong. After my delivery my body just went back to normal like immediately. I had a challenge during my second pregnancy, first of all I was already over 30 years. My body reacted badly,I was really sick during the pregnancy and even after delivery I din't feel strong for quite sometime.
     
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  8. Jasmin Cottontail

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    I would also love to have kids not far away from my age. I mean having a baby at 20 isn't bad, and I've known some people who had their first babies at 14, 16 and 19, and most of them are happy. It's nice to know that your children looks at you as their best friend because your children will feel really comfortable with you as well as they won't kept any secret from you :)
     
  9. Alexandoy

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    I had an office mate before who got pregnant at age 40. Making matters worse, it was her first pregnancy. She had to resign from her job because the doctor had advised her to stay home for a complete rest. She was always feeling ill like the hot flushes or headache and some other symptoms that the doctor said was due to her late pregnancy. Her husband was forced to buy a car so the pregnant wife will be comfortable when they travel (for short trips only). It's a good thing that the baby came out normal.
     
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    I would say when two people are mentally, physically and financially ready to bear a child, they should go for it.

    I would say late 20's to early 30's is probably the best period.
     
  11. Vinaya

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    I am 36 and my wife is 31 and soon we will have baby. When we were married, my wife was 29 and I was 33. After we got married, we decided not to have a baby until we were mentally ready to become parents. More than your body age, you need to have mature mental capacity to have babies.
     
  12. littlewitch66

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    I don't know if there is a right age to have babies. You should be responsible enough to look after one and not too old that you won't see it grow up so that's quite a wide age range.

    I was 30 and 36 when I had my children and although I had difficult pregnancies they were not age related problems. I have a great relationship with my second child even though back then I was considered to be an 'old' mum! These days it is different as more people are putting their career first and having children later.

    I have read about a woman in her 70s who had a baby and although the child was healthy I don't know if I agree with it. I took on custody of my granddaughter in my fifties and although I have good health I find it very tiring and I know she feels different to her friends now she is older because they live with their mums and dads and she lives with me. Here is the story:

    https://www.theguardian.com/world/2...an-in-her-70s-gives-birth-to-healthy-baby-boy.
     
  13. Merlizy

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    In most of your comments you mainly referring to the woman but pregnancy goes both ways. As a father to be you have to be ready for additional responsibilities, mother and kid. When the pregnancy come when you are not prepared financially, emotionally and mentally you will end up abandoning the people who are supposed to give your life a meaning. In my opinion its about being prepared.
     
  14. Miches

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    Ideally, you will have to be emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially prepared to have a baby. Sometimes, however, while you may be physically ready to have a child, it may take time to achieve career or financial maturity and some couple do postpone pregnancy because of this. For women, however, the biological clock's ticking is more apparent and I would have to say that the best age is during her late 20's to early 30's. The late 30's is also fine if the woman is physically strong. Beyond this bracket, normal pregnancy and childbirth is still possible but carries more risks than usual for both the mother and the baby.
     
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    I don't think it has much to do with age. I believe that one should have financial preparation as well as a stable environment. After all, you want your baby to flourish. Just being born will not suffice. Overall, you can even have a baby before your 20s as long as you are stable.
     
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    The best time to have a baby solely depends on you. There is a reason that makes a specific period of time ideal for you to have a kid. It may be when you are financially stable and able to provide your child with everything they need, when you have a strong bond with your spouse in order to give the child a stable home and this most likely happens when you are married. Biologically, a woman's time for conception is always ticking so the choices are sometimes limited on when to have a baby. In my opinion a woman should strive to have her first baby between the ages of 25 and 27. This is a great time to introduce your first child to the world and the age difference between you and your first child will make your bond stronger since it is not that large. For men I think any time is a great time as long as you are ready to take responsibility for your child and financially stable to support your family.
     
  17. remnant

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    The best age to have a baby is late teenage to early twenties preferably before the age of 21yrs. The body is still developing but prepared for pregnancy and childbirth which means that post natal repair will be fast and the body will soon be back in shape. For instance, its easier to lose body fat and the muscles tone back more easily than at later ages.
     
  18. workingbuck

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    I would say 20 to late 20s would be fine, but 20 would be better if you want to have 3 to 4 kids which you would really enjoy a lot since after 20 years, your firstborn would be 20 and you are just 40 years old.
     
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    Babies born late have the risk of unheard of diseases such as autism. We have a case in our family. This couple got married well past their thirties and now have a child with autism. An idieal age would be between 28 to 32 for men and 24 to 28 for women.
     
  20. Mika

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    I don't think there is a standard age for having a child but what I know is that a woman can conceive and give birth to a healthy child until her menopause. However, if a lady gives birth in her late forties than the only problem she might face is that she is in her late sixties by the time her offspring reaches twenty which in my view is not an ideal situation.
     

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