Best Age to Have A Baby

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  1. Heatman

    Heatman Active Member

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    In my opinion, I would say that it varies based on one's cultural background and setting. There are some cultures that pushes for its people to marry early while it's exactly the opposite with some other ones.

    But, if it comes to me, I would say that for the man, it would be more appropriate to get married between the age of 30-35 while for the lady, it's more appropriate to do so around the age of 20-25.

    Although, the deciding factor in all these is the ability to take care of one's family, provide and cater for their needs. Once an individual can be be able to do this, then I definitely don't see anything that should be holding him back from getting married.
     
  2. Kat

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    Well, I know people a few years back had babies earlier in life. I do think times have changed, so not everyone will have a stable job or have their life together by 25. I think one should have them when they truly are ready and stable. Late 20's, 30's are perfectly fine. If you can manage a little earlier, that's fine too, it just depends on the person. Some people mentioned diseases associated with age. Risks are bigger as you get older, but keep in mind that statistics change and there are many factors. For example, I have a cousin who had her baby boy at 19 and he has autism. A certain age won't guarantee anything, again, it all depends on the person.
     
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    Elsa Starlight Baby Employee Staff Member

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    I totally agree with you, @Miches. The age bracket you mentioned should have already made the husband and wife mature enough and financially stable to raise a family. The 20's would indeed be the best age because of lesser pregnancy risks, however, this is just about the time most women's careers are just taking off. The age between the late 20's to early 30's would seem to be very practical and still safe for a woman to be pregnant and give birth.
     
  4. Elsa

    Elsa Starlight Baby Employee Staff Member

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    Yes, you're also right @Kat. Younger doesn't mean safer. Although experts recommend women to get pregnant during their 20's. Below that age might also be risky because the body is still not fully developed to handle the pregnancy.

    A niece of mine gave birth at 18 years of age - the baby was fine but the mother suffered a mild stroke of some sort which disfigured her face a bit. Thank God she got back to normal through therapy.
     
  5. Natasha0717

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    I would have to say maybe late 20's-early 30's.
    By this time. your body has been going through monthly cycles long enough to "regulate" themselves, and also because I just feel like this is the time in a woman's life when they are the healthiest and better-prepared to conceive and deliver a baby (or babies). In your teens and early 20's, I think your reproductive system is still getting used to the transition from girl-to-woman...and let's face it, this is the time best spent focusing on school, friends, and just plain old f-u-n in general. :) This is also the time to find your perfect mate, or at least begin searching for one. Once you hit your late-20's (and early 30's)...it's safe to say you're a little more prepared to start putting your party-days behind you, and you're still young and healthy enough to produce healthy babies. Plus, you're still young enough to have the energy to take care of them. Late 30's-early 40's...that's getting a little risky. A little more difficult to conceive, less energy, might start feeling a little too tired to keep up with the kiddies (especially newborns)...and you have to think about the health risks associated with having children in your older years. But still, many, many, healthy babies are born every day to women even in their mid-to-late 40's. ;) It's really all up to you. But if I would have decided to have children, I probably would have started around the age of 30.
     
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    Having had children in my 20s and in my 30s, I have to say, it was easier (physically) on me in my 20s. I agree that life situations are probably a bit more stable for most people in their 30s and beyond. Still, there was a definite difference, even though it was just a few years.

    These days, people have babies at all ages. Personally, I wouldn't want to do it beyond early 30s.
     
  7. Rexy

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    The ideal age would probably be 35-40. However, if you want to focus on your career, you can wait till you're 42-45. However, 35 is great as then you have spent time working for a while so it's perfect ;)
     
  8. D Lee

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    Personally, I think the age bracket of 25-30 years is the best for reproduction. Most of you have given great opinions about this as well but it's because the body is usually in it's strengths during this time and the person is usually mature to take the responsibilities that comes up with parenthood that makes me think that this is the best age to have/plan getting a baby.
     
  9. tallulah

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    In my opinion, I think the best age to have a baby is between 25 and 40. However, this is not to say women above 40 should not try to have a baby. We just need to focus on the health aspects of having a baby too early in life or too late. If you are given a clean bill of health, there is no reason why you cant have a child at any age.
     
  10. joey_2tep

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    I was 35 and my wife was 33 when we had our first baby. We just felt we were a little late to have baby and we were so afraid then that we were not gonna be able to have baby. Besides, our gynecologist always remind my wife to take extra care because she was a little bit late to have her first baby. So, I would say it is best for women to have baby on their mid 20's and for men i think age doesn't matter as long as they are capable and healthy as well.
     
  11. Kakashi2020

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    I think that there is no definitive exact age for a woman to get pregnant, but being matured enough would generally be safer, a woman between the ages of 18 up to 38 years old are on the safe side. Below 18 and above 38 years old have a higher risk when it comes to pregnancy and childbirth.
     
  12. Heatman

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    There are some tribes in my country that are fond of getting married at very young age. There have been cases of where 12-14 years old girl being married to old men that can be the mate of such girl's parents. This is peculiar in the Muslim states in my country.
     
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    Oh yes I am sure it varies quite a bit depending on where you are and the customs of each place, but that still seems a little young. It is one of those questions that will never really have an answer but should be thought of to be on the safe side like others have said.
     
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    In my opinion, the best age to have a baby is between 25 to 32, that is when the women are in their peak of the health and best equipped, both mentally as well as physically to cope with the pressures of pregnancy and motherhood. Post 32, 35, our stamina begins to deteriorate and it also poses several risks for the baby as well as.
     
  15. janemarie

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    The early twenties is the better age for having children when the body is strong and youthful. The only problem is that mentally, I don't think we are ready to have children until we are at least in our forties by which time it is too risky to go ahead with. When we get older we risk giving birth to downs syndrome babies and other problems as well as it could be a risk to the mothers' health.

    By nature, we can bear children if we menstruate but that doesn't mean that we should be having children at the ages of twelve or fifty three!
     
  16. tyche

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    Google has this to say regarding your question:

    "A different assessment of the long-term health of older mothers presents a slight complication, at least for women who want to have more than one child. While having a first baby at age 34 might be fine, this other study suggests, what's even more fine is to have a last baby before age 35."
     
  17. Kakashi2020

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    In some cultures pregnancy and childbirth by young girls are still accepted as normal practice but it doesn't mean that the risk factor associated with it is also normal. Women have young ages has a high pregnancy and childbirth risk factor and mortality rate than women 18 years old and above.
     
  18. Heatman

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    It was really a serious issue then, I think it's was actually attempted by the senate to pass marriage to underage into law but the entire Eastern Christian community of the country was vehemently against it and also some part of the Western part of the state.

    It was the northern part of the country that were really agitating for the the law to be passed. I felt ashamed for the kind of law makers we had in the country because they are a disgrace.
     
  19. Kakashi2020

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    Well that's usually the problem with age old customs and traditions, but like all others it would eventually conform and adjust to modern society but it would take decades. When new generations would adapt the modern life then the old traditions and customs would die off and that my friend would not happen anytime soon. We have a province in my country which even up to now have blood feuds and in the 1950's we had several provinces like that but the old generation does off and the new generation adapt modernity now we are left with only one. Eventually that province will also embrace modernity. It's really a very slow process but education and modernization.
     
  20. Heatman

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    Personally, I'm really tired of these repugnant old customs and traditions. They are really getting on my nerves which some inhuman patterns of desire these old cargoes look to explore and exploit all in the name of customs and traditions. If it's possible to root them all out from power overnight, I would strongly volunteer to be a party to the coup. They have done more than enough and need to take a break from the system.
     

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