Crying kids, is this natural?

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  1. naruto100

    naruto100 Active Member

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    Hello ,

    My daughter has completed one and half year so far. I am enjoying every moment of my life with her.

    About topic, I have noticed few things lately, that she is crying for almost every things. Even if she wants someone to lift her then she just start crying. Same goes for other things. Normally I thought that kids behave like this when their parents full fill every demand of their kids. But here its not the same thing. And I guess she is still young to even demanding things.

    Someone told me that at this age it is normal that kids cry (not all of course). After certain period this is going to reduce.

    I am not sure if it is truth. Anyone can guide me for this?
     
  2. Alexandoy

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    It's not normal for a toddler to be a cry-baby but there are toddlers who are like that. Whatever you do, they cry whether you give what they want which means they want something more. In other words, there is a communication gap maybe. The only remedy that I can think is to give that toddler more attention. Play with the toddler and talk to the toddler like an adult. The tone of your voice will be understood and talking for a time will give the toddler a feeling of friendship.
     
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  3. iamawriter

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    I am not sure but could it be you take too long to meet her demands and that could be the reason that she cries for attention right at the start so that she does not have to wait. As long as she stops crying the moment she gets what she wants should be fine. A toddler crying is not something that should be frowned upon.
     
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  4. naruto100

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    I guess that's the reason. She wants more attention. Even I have noticed that if someone is giving total attention to her she is not crying and keep playing with that person. But I guess this is hard to do every time. I mean I go for work and my wife is too busy with cooking and other home work. But surely we have to put more attention to her. Thank you for your replies.
     
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    Do you also know kids are cunning? :D My brother when he was a kid got into tantrums and showed signs of wanting to use the potty. We were all busy in the kitchen making Christmas sweets He was the only one trapped in his cot. Mother believed him and put him down. He had a grin on his face and rushed to where we were busy in the kitchen and forgot all about the potty (lol).
     
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  6. tallulah

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    It is natural for children under 12 months old to cry, at anytime of the day or night. It is the only way they know to express any form of discomfort. But crying episodes should lessen with time the older they grow. It is certainly not natural for a 3 year old to wake up crying and go to bed crying. Aside from the usual childish tantrums which is common even in older children, incessant tears in children can and should be discouraged by parents.
     
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    I think some children cry more than others but as long as they don't sound as if they are in pain then it's nothing to worry about and they will grow out of it. Both my children cried a lot, one in the day time, the other at night but by the time they went to school they were perfectly ok. A lot of it is because they want your attention and don't like it when you have to attend to other things but eventually they learn to amuse themselves and the crying becomes less.
     
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  8. Alexandoy

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    I agree that as long as the crying baby doesn't look like in pain, you have nothing to worry about. However, you should give the crying baby full attention in order to stop crying. One nephew of mine was a cry baby who always had tonsillitis due to excessive crying. And that crying can affect the health of the baby.
     
  9. kaka135

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    I always read that crying is the way the toddler communicates with us as they can't really talk well or express themselves yet, and they struggle to tell us something.

    I remember my second child who is a girl was very clinging to me, sometimes I had to carry her and do the housework including cooking at the same time. Of course, there were times when I really can't carry her, I let her stay near me and play. While I can, I just gave her some attention and played with her for a very short while, then I went back to do my work. Sometimes, what they need is just very short attention or they just need to be able to see us, then they can start playing on their own. So, perhaps you can give her something she likes to play with, and play with her for a short while first before going to do the work. Then in between, perhaps you can go back and play with her for a little short while, then tell her you have to go and do the work again. I think toddler can understand us quite well already.

    I have also read that it might be a good idea to keep a box of special toys or play stuff, and also let the kid play in "special occasion". As the kid does not play with those toys all the time, she might feel excited when she has a chance to play with, then she will be more engaged to it and you can do your work.
     
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  10. tyche

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    Of course it's natural for kids to cry over every little thing, I was told I was like that when I was a little infant. But as I grew up I outgrew it and I have become quite a sociable kid.
     
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  11. naruto100

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    Mostly I don't stay at home, but yes I try to give her attention whenever I am at home. This is really good information and I will pass it to my wife. Sometimes it is hard for her to keep playing with her with all the work. But she is doing really nice in handling her.

    I like the idea bout special toys on special occasion. Surely she can get excited by her. I will follow it too.
     

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