How Old were you when you decided that it's time to make a baby or to conceive?

Discussion in 'Trying To Conceive' started by Kakashi2020, May 10, 2018.

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  1. Kakashi2020

    Kakashi2020 Member

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    When I was 21 I told myself that I would settle and have a kid by age 35 with a younger woman and like most of my plans it didn't quite materialize as planned. I got engaged and wed my present wife when I was 25 and she was 31 and she got pregnant 2 years after, when I was 27 and she was 33. Our second child came after another 2 years, when o was 29 and she was 35. I really want another child but sadly my wife had some health problems and being pregnant again would be risky so we only have 2 boys.
     
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    I'm sorry to here about your wife @Kakashi2020 but at least she got to conceive. I'm from the projects so most of the friends I went to school with got kids while still in school and a few of them right after high school. I just turned 25 on May 1st and I'm still not sure if I want to have a kid right now. Deep down I know I'm still really irresponsible so it's not worth having a kid in my life right now.
     
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    I respect your decision of not yet having a kid, sometimes if not all the time raising a kid is really hard much more if you're not prepared mentally, and financially, I've got two kids with 2 years age gap and since my gave birth to our eldest until the time our youngest was already 2 years old, that's about 4 straight years that I and my wife hardly slept, we were like zombies and robots taking care of the kids 24/7. I was still working then and after a days work I'll give my wife some time off, its my time to take care of the children and when they were babies, I literally slept an hour a day. My point is if one is not mentally ready then don't rush things.
     
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    I think it was around 27 years that I really felt like being a father. I was married before then but wasn't ready to have any baby yet but at my 27th years, it felt like a huge rush all over me and I discussed it with my wife and we both agreed that we are ready for kids then we made it work.
     

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