Well I assume it's because the parents want to "over-nurture" their child and they end up spoiling them, especially when they have money. Sometimes, to compensate for their absence, they just make it up by buying the child gifts and toys so that the kids won't miss their presence so much.
We do nurture them in any way we can, and that is okay for a while. In the longer run does it affects us if we over spoil them?
My impression of parents spoiling their kids is that they want their children to be independent as early as possible. Just the other day we were in a restaurant for an afternoon snack, there was a family with 3 kids aged 8, 5 and probably 2. Those 3 kids were wandering in the restaurant as if they were on a playground, sometimes running and shouting. And the parents were there just watching what their bratty kids were doing. We were disturbed but it's not good to complain. All we did was to pray that the family would leave earlier to spare us of the children's racket.
OMG! That was a awkward moment for you. I mean I have one son and he's a energetic little one. I will not complain about those parents because we go through many things with our kids. We love them, and at the end of the day we are exhausted sometimes we need a break. I do believe a little discipline would have helped. I really would love to know how those parents do it on a daily basis with 3 kids. This one time my son and I went to pay our cable bill and he was running around none stop and I gave him my phone to calm down and it didn't work out like I planned he sat down for 5 minutes and started all over again. I was embarrassed really suddenly his grand father came in the spotlight and saved me. I was like thank you very much.
I agree with that. Most parents now work outside home and the kids are left in care of someone else. So out of guilt and having access to more disposable income, the parents try to compensate their absence by buying more stuff for the children and end up turning their kids into spoilt brats who cab't take no for an answer.
My point of view on this issue for parents to realize it is never to late for discipline. As a stay at home parent I quit my job to take care of my kids so not everyone can apply to a situation where they pay others to take care of their own kids. Otherwise kids get affected because they want their parents home,and time but not all parents can because they have to work in order to pay bills,rent,buy groceries,etc,. We try to give our kids the lives we didn't had when we were kids either way it affects both kids and parents.
@nangk08, That's true, although only the children of rich kids are the ones susceptible to grow up as "spoiled", because the poor parents can't afford to buy what their child wants.
However, I know of one child, her parents were poor but her parents still tried to give her what she wanted to the best of their ability. So I assume the toys were not lavish, but her simple wishes were granted.
In due time when she has her own kids then,but until then she will realize how much her parents did tried so hard to see her happy. As we as humans we have to bleed in order to learn from this wicked world.
There is a lot to handle with kids and you wish that it was all happy time to spend together but you are right things have to be paid and work done, and maybe that plays into why people spoil their kids. Either way you just hope that a positive relationship is there.
I have to answer both for it is very important as the kids are growing up. It's because parents love their kids and it is because the kids are still young. However, for me, It's not to the extend of spoling them. When the kids are already growing up and they know what's right and what's wrong, It's time to give them the proper counsel as to when they're not allowed to do things and as to when they're permitted to do so.
I agree. It's part of this life and as adults we know more about life, and it's our job to educate our kids in teaching them what's right from wrong.
