Trying too hard to get pregnant

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  1. Alexandoy

    Alexandoy Active Member

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    There is a couple who were so desperate to get pregnant that they resorted to every possible means. After spending a lot in the in-vitro fertilization process that failed, they went to a quack doctor. But the couple remained childless after spending almost half of their wealth.
     
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    This is so sad. I remember my experienced becuase of this. We are maried for 5 years now and still no child. 2 years ago we're trying to have a baby really but God doesnt gave us still. We gave up now. But we still hoping and trying. In God's perfect time.
     
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  3. Alexandoy

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    Sometimes have to accept what God gives us even if we don't like it. With children, I believe that they are a gift of God so we cannot choose. My take on being childless is that God gave us the opportunity to fully enjoy our life. When we go on vacation, my wife and I have no much worries because only the housemaids are at home.
     
  4. tyche

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    Maybe it's God's will for the woman not to get pregnant. If they tried every single option and they still failed, then they should just consider adoption.
     
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    And we all know, you can't go against God's will!
     
  6. Polina Kravchenko

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    there is no such thing as psychological infertility. even complete drunks can get pregnant. ive been told by several doctors that i had psychological infertility for a few years until found a qualified one and he told me the reason
     
  7. James McAllister

    James McAllister Kinacle Employee Staff Member

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    I don't think many would argue that infertility issues can lead to stress, anxiety and depression for intended parents, it's obviously very upsetting for those desperately trying to conceive, but are unable too.

    It's still up for debate whether or not the reverse is true - if psychological factors, your mood and overall mental well-being affect your chances to get pregnant.

    However, psychological treatment of these symptoms for women with infertility has shown some promise at improving pregnancy rates, per a study here.
     
  8. Hova

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    I read a story about this guy who was expressing his feelings about IVF and it left me so confused. He was claiming that he is an IVF baby, well, him and his twin brother. But the thing is, his brother is autistic. They were both 19 years when I read the story so they are about 20 years old right now, because that was 2 years ago.

    The brother who is okay, was blaming his brother's autism on the fact that their mother was crying for years with the desperation for a baby, before she decided to go for IVF. Now that the parents are getting older, they will not be able to take care of the brother with autism which leaves only one other option, the other brother.
     
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    This is where God come in. I know a couple that stayed over 13 years without a child. And during this period, the lady went through 5 miscarriages. Now she is in her third trimester. Somethings only God can handle.
     
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    I agree, The Creator is the only one who has control over these kinds of things. But I'm glad to hear that she is having her baby soon because from what I've read, she has gone through a lot of trials and tribulations.
     
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  11. Alexandoy

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    I also believe in that. If God is not generous to give you a child, don't try too hard for you may be given a lemon. One priest told that to us so we stopped trying after the 3rd work up did not succeed. It is better to accept your fate so you can live an enjoyable life. It is not the child that matters but the happiness in life.
     
  12. doursay

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    Getting upset is understandable. Stressing over it is not. One does not need to lead to the other. People have to let go of what they can't control. If you try 20 times to get pregnant and it doesn't work, it either wasn't meant to be, or not meant to be at that time. People obviously cannot control that, so they need to accept it.

    I think social pressures play a large part in the stress factor. If a woman is 30, single and childless she better get on the ball. The clock is ticking. If the husband wants kids before they get too old.....she better get on the ball. That can be stressful.

    As another poster pointed out, adoption is an option.
     
  13. Hova

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    Adoption should always be an option. Actually, I've seen couples who spend years trying to get pregnant and it never happens. But once they adopt, things change and they finally manage to have a kid of their own. The Creator works in mysterious ways.
     

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