What do you think about surrogacy?

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  1. iamawriter

    iamawriter Active Member

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    More and more celebrities opt for surrogate pregnancy. Will this not affect the child born this way? Also there are stories about those who become surrogate mothers get attached to the baby and that has a serious mental effect on the surrogate mother followed by unpleasantness between both the parties.
     
  2. tyche

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    I think that surrogate pregnancy is a good way to get pregnant, especially if the woman cannot bear a child anymore. Surrogate mothers are paid in the first place, so the likelihood of being attached to the baby is slim.
     
  3. iamawriter

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    I agree with you that those who cannot conceive the natural way could resort to this method but what about those normal celebrities go for this for different reasons and one of them is to keep their body in shape?
     
  4. Nocturnal Writer

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    Everything has its purpose and there are problems that have solutions.

    Barren women have a sincere desire to raise a children if possible they could avail of surrogate pregnancy they will and willing to pay.

    The surrogate mother actually won't raise the children. As soon as she delivers a child of one's hubby, she's paid and the contract is over. So there's less or no attachment of the baby to the surrogate mother.
     
  5. Alexandoy

    Alexandoy Well-Known Member

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    It is not only the celebrities who are turning to surrogacy but also the gay and lesbian people who cannot conceive in the natural way. There is one gay man who has several sets of twins with the surrogate mothers selected from the list of Russian volunteers. When the children grow I wonder how they would thin of themselves. Just like the kids of Michael Jackson huh.
     
  6. iamawriter

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    With population explosion they would do well if they adopted children rather than go through this unnatural way. Also the child thus born will have issues if it is born from a borrowed egg.
     
  7. iamawriter

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    In your comment you have expressed my own fear "When the children grow I wonder how they would thin of themselves. Just like the kids of Michael Jackson huh"!!
    Childless couples can do wonders with their time and I feel there is a reason why they are childless.
     
  8. James McAllister

    James McAllister Kinacle Employee Staff Member

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    It's my opinion that surrogacy is a blessing. Anybody willing to go through so much to have a child must really want to become a parent, and will probably do an excellent job at the role once they're given the opportunity.

    I understand the concerns, of course. Thankfully, the children grow up largely the same as any other child would - often in even better environments because again, the parents really wanted to have them.

    Most surrogacy agencies conduct psychological screening both to the surrogates and the intended parents, while also going into detail about potential complications with the process. Of course, this isn't always conducted if pursuing surrogacy independently.
     
  9. iamawriter

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    It is not as easy in the sense there are issues that one has to look into. As long as the egg and sperm belong to the couple there will be no trouble but what if one or the other has been bought or donated? Will it not have some effect or the other on the couple later on ? Also what is the point if both egg and sperm are borrowed or donated? Might as well adopt a child. There are so many who are waiting to be adopted.
     
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  10. James McAllister

    James McAllister Kinacle Employee Staff Member

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    That's also a good question. In regards to the genetic makeup not being entirely from the intended parents, this really isn't any different to adoption at birth. Any particular issues in regards to how the child turns out are likely to be the same and all else being equal, adopted children don't really turn out any different.

    I agree that adoption is the ideal choice if you're not going to have any genetic ties anyway, but unfortunately this isn't as easy as it sounds. Adoption may take months or years, can cost just as much money, and have way more headaches to deal with both during the process and afterward. At least in the United States, anyway.

    It's even more challenging if you're wanting to adopt a newborn or infant, as the demand is much higher.

    It's a very tough issue to think about - on one hand, there are a lot of children in need of loving homes. At the same time, safety of the children has to be a priority and the government needs to be sure the children are going to safe, loving homes.

    All things considered though, I don't blame parents for giving up an adoption and going straight to surrogacy because of it.
     
  11. iamawriter

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    Both approaches surrogacy and adoption seem not worth the trouble it seems to me. These couples can use their time and money for improving the world and get joy doing that The world needs them.
     

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